Friends, lovers, or nothing
There can only be one
Friends, lovers, or nothing
We'll never be the in-between
So give it up
Why can't there be an in-between? Well, in my expert experience in fucking myself over, once the Oxytocin kicks in, you and your "situation" quickly exit the friend-zone and there is no returning. My girl Tanya hipped me to the Oxytocin theory when I caught myself really missing a friend while they were on vacation. She watches waaaay too much Dr. Oz, but thanks to her daytime TV addiction, I have more useless knowledge in my mind. Oxytocin is a hormone in your body that essentially tricks you into longing for a person by making you calmer, more content, trusting, and secure when you're around them. The more positive experiences you have with that person, the higher your Oxytocin levels are each time you're around that person. Oxytocin, in some studies, arouses both male & females and higher levels during sex is key to a female's pair bonding. Google it. Like an addict, the more you're around them, the more you want this feeling. Oxytocin is worse than crack. That damn 'tocin makes you snuggle up in bed even though it's a thousand degrees outside. That damn 'tocin is why you sleep in his t-shirt and get mad when it doesn't smell like him anymore. That damn 'tocin will have you driving to see him when you get off the late shift even though you need to wake up in 3 hours. That damn 'tocin is why men say women "catch feelings" faster, but guess what guys? You're 'tocin fiends too, you just won't admit it. You can keep not kissing these girls, but eventually, the 'tocin is gonna kick in and you will be a making breakfast in the morning, Jill Scott style.
It's possible that you and your "situation" will eventually upgrade to a legitimate relationship but my money's on you guys falling apart. But you still crave that damn 'tocin.
You whisper, "Come on over"
Because you're two drinks in
But in the morning I will say
Good-bye again
Think we'll never fall into
The jealous game
The streets will flood
With blood of those who felt the same
...yea, about that. It doesn't work that way. I don't believe it's possible to be friends with 90% of your exes because of the 'tocin. I guess your brain never really forgets how good it feels to be with that person, but neither does your heart and thus, World War III breaks out when you see them with their new chick. They have to become nothing, even if he's the best feeling in the world.
Anything other than yes is no
Anything other than stay is go
Anything less than I love you is lying
Oxytocin is an underlying cause of the disease that is love. And if you're avoiding heartbreak at all costs like myself, stay away from Love and that damn 'tocin.
